If you’re Asian American and on Facebook, you may have noticed a link to this article being sent around in the past couple of days: The piece was posted a few months ago by Ricky Kim, a Korean American man like myself, and takes Korean American women to task for being superficial, materialistic and self-absorbed.
He admits that Korean women are the most beautiful women in the world, but concludes by writing: “Even though it’s against my mother’s wishes, I probably won’t marry a Korean-American woman. They call me negative but I feel the most positive thing you can do is have the courage to address the painful realities in order to build a brighter future for our children.” If you look at the comments responding to Kim’s original post, you’ll see the strong outrage directed against him and his views.
In a poll that someone told me about seeing somewhere at some point in time, Korean American women were voted the most high-maintenance of all Asian American women and the least desirable as wife material because of this (Japanese American women were ranked most desirable as wife material because, well, they live to take care of their men).
But as we established, KA women are super hot and you’re still going to ask them out, so the least I can do is try to help you navigate through a potentially dangerous situation.
But it’s also true that Asian women have long been cast alongside white men in movies, television, and even the nightly news.
Just ask yourself, when was the last time you saw an Asian American male anchor with a white female co-anchor?
Unfortunately, this kind of gender racism will continue unless we see Asian men in leading romantic roles.
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Sam Louie is a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in addictions, Asian American issues and Christian counseling.
Prior to therapy, he worked more than a dozen years as an Emmy Award-winning television news reporter where he researched and reported on a number of stories related to addictions, culture and psychotherapy.
On the flip side of this equation are Asian women who rank highest in terms of desirability.
Once again, age-old stereotypes of Asian women as being submissive, docile, and sexually exotic play a role.